To understate things, I was a late bloomer in the realm of romance. This is a serious omission, since our relationships with others are the biggest determinants of happiness in our lives. I know it's fashionable amidst the smart set to be dissatisfied with yourself and to keep striving for more, bigger, best.
And it wouldn't be a stretch to say that most people's lives revolve around their primary love relationship. However, women will tell you that there's nothing more attractive in a man than self-acceptance (which is the same as complacency).
But those lugs probably think Hubble is some kind of gum and Perl scripts are oyster recipes!
And most things in life don't follow linear equations - not your breath, not your heartbeat, not your Apple stock, and most certainly not women and romance. Sometimes she'll come to you when you ignore her and leave when you declare your undying love - deal with it. So he's bewildered when the jock/frat boy gets the girl and he does not. A woman will like you based on how you you make her feel.
If you find yourself in that category, there are plenty of articles on this site that can help you brave the social waters, such as: Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics.
Colt is one of our writers who contributed to the site a while back, with the 'Student of the Game' series and the 'Social Skills 101' series.
Colt's roughly intermediate in his skills with women - he's still learning, but he's having success and taking new and pretty girls to bed - and he's focused on helping guys who are new to working on themselves and their dating skill sets to get in gear.
A few years later, right about when I was a pre-med advisor to Harvard undergraduates, I noticed that my friends and advisees were in a similar pickle.
Here were smart, funny, good-looking guys surrounded by single women who were to be asked out - and not a whole lot was happening. Smart people created nearly everything that I value - Beethoven's late string quartets, my HP laser printer, Feynman's lectures, suffer like I did? Set up the whole date: where, when, how, and in what outfit.